Thursday, January 28, 2010

No Theme For Today??

Well then, I will make my own up! LoL. I love how each day there is a theme on everyone's blogs. Wednesday is Rant and Rave which I do sometimes....Rarely but still sometimes. And Friday Fragments I've been known to do too. Today I need something random and I can't seem to find nor remember if there is a theme for Thursdays. So I'm doing it anyways!

I follow an awesome blog and yesterday she had begun a 14-day challenge for us married women.
Women's Marraige Ministry
I'm not active in it because I have done it before and because I'm holding out for the Love Dare challenge coming up after it. It isn't that my marriage is perfect, it isn't but it is close to it. I know, a lot of people say that to hide what is really going on, but I wouldn't lie on my blog, nor hide things. This is pretty much one of the only places I can come running to, to let it all hang out. There was a time when my marriage wasn't going to last another year. Yes we've only been married 5 years now, (well a few short months from it at least) but believe me when I say it's been a looooong 5 years. It feels like 10 for us in reality. We've survived things that most married couples wouldn't and I hold that near and dear.

Have I ever told you guys that Abel and I only dated for 28 days before we eloped? Before that, we barely knew each other and even then we had known each other for 3 months maybe? Nice right? LoL. I know what you are thinking and crazy is probably in one of the sentences. But you know, I don't see the big deal honestly. We prayed about our relationship, stayed pure to ourselves, (Abel and I had only kissed and held hands the entire time we knew each other and dated) and when we eloped, we made the contract to ourselves and to God. Meaning, we meant our vows and had agreed beforehand that there would only be death as our way out of the marriage. I wish people who were getting married would be more concerned with the vows instead of the dress or the reception afterwards you know? Divorce runs rampant and it's hard to not get frustrated. I grew up in the most un-conventional family you can come across. A divorced mother turned lesbian with her life partner (now legally wife) raising us. But it was hard not seeing both parents daily and not having what everyone else had. When I lived with my dad and was in girl scouts, the mother and me programs were often and yet I had to miss out. My dad's boss took me bra shopping and I never had interests in sports until I moved back in with my dad in high school. There are things I missed out and yes I hold my parents responsible for that. So I grew up telling myself, I would never get divorced and I hold onto that very strongly. I firmly believe that if someone gets married telling themselves that there is always a way out if things get bad, they will never make it. People have gotten so lazy anymore. Something gets hard, run or find the easiest way out. I know, I can't say much about other people's life because I'm not there but believe me, Abel and I have been through a lot and made it through just fine, because we believe you can work through anything and come out stronger and better than before.

I should have been born back in the 1950's.

I guess I got my kick from watching that Teen Mom show on MTV. I feel for some of the kids but then there are some of them that I wish I could be there and give a wake up chat to. Some whine because they can't go out partying all the time like they want to. Some whine because they can't get along with their boyfriends but yet they are the ones always screaming and causing fights with them. In the middle of this stuff, are the babies. It just makes me feel really lucky and blessed to be with Abel I guess. I pray daily that when I teach my kids to stay abstinent that they do. It isn't a holier than thou thing by the way. I get that a lot. "You want your kids to think they are better than anyone just because they won't have sex?" Puh-lease. I want my kids to stay STD and cootie free. I want my kids to grow up without worrying about if the only reason a person is with them is for the sex. I want them to not have to be a parent of a child when they themselves are still one. And I want my kids to be able to look at a rumor of them being a "slut" or a "man-whore" and laugh at it because it couldn't possibly be true.

I truly feel guilty for hiding me on here. I try not to bring anything personal on here because not a lot of people share my beliefs. I'm scared of scaring people off to tell you the truth. Or to start a debate or get criticized. Lots of excuses for hiding myself. I am a Christian and extremely proud of it. I'm also Jewish as well and very proud of that too. I'm a bottle feeding, baby wearing, non-cloth diapering, Hamburger Helper making, junk food and non-organic eating, naive, sometimes judgemental, sometimes emotional, shy, kinda woman. When I get angry, I don't think well and usually the first thing to come out goes straight out of my mouth before I can think about it. And I do live my life kinda weird to everyone but I love it. I am a stay at home mother. I cook and clean on a daily basis. I am a homebody and love it. I put everyone before myself. When I get angry with someone I never tell them because I don't want to hurt their feelings or upset them. I over analyze everything. And I ramble. A lot. I serve my husband and childen their food because it makes me happy as well as take care of them and clean up after them all, husband included. I love colors. I'm very sarcastic. I never swear. The only alcohol that passes through my lips is a Mike's Hard Berry once in a blue moon and never a full bottle. I have OCD (which would explain the half bottle thing) and I also have anxiety. I never followed politics before Obama and Palin. I do not ever declare Rupublican party or Demacrat party. I am a I-vote-for-who-I-wanna-because-I-wanna party. But was a huge supporter of Palin, and NOT one of Obama's. My children and husband are Mexican American and we speak Spanish in my house and no, I don't care if you get pissed off that we aren't talking English in this country. And yes if you get offended when we speak Spanish, I will get offended too. I have high morals and values. My husband and I never yell at each other. We don't argue in front of the kids. Ever. And if I know that someone yells or swears or fights in front of their kids, they won't be able to watch my kiddos or have them over for any sleepover.

I don't know what sparred me to rant today or ramble but it was time. I thought I had a road block for my blogging. I'm a dull blogger and no fun but things will be picking up. I may be the quiet type when not on my computer but this is where I need to be the real me. :D Hope you stick with me after this! Things may get exciting finally.

Anyways, I get to go finish my loan papers (getting a new car finally!) and then some shopping and cleaning. So hope everyone is having a fantastic day! Oh and go visit This Mama Rocks! She is having a fabulous auction to raise monies for the Red cross for help and relief efforts in Haiti! Tons of amazing stuff!! Including a carseat too! Last I saw it was going for $20!


Gucci Mama said...

Well, I think I speak for a lot of us when I say that we love you just as you are!

I had no idea that you two eloped after knowing each other for such a short time. Won't that be a fun story to tell your grand kids?

I would agree with you that a lot of people don't take marriage as seriously as they ought. But I have also seen the other side of the coin, the side where one person gives so much of herself and the other takes and takes and takes until there is nothing left to give. Until the life is sucked out of her and she's a shadow of her former self. I've seen that abuse can come in many forms and it's not always a fist (though sometimes a fist would hurt less) and I have seen how difficult it can be to get out of a horrid situation. I've also seen new life breathed into the person who finally escapes; in this case, my mother.

But I know you weren't talking about abusive relationships here and I totally get what you're saying. May God continue to bless your marriage. It's lovely to see someone so excited about her life!

Sassy Pants Freckle Face said...

Hey you rock! just sayin',....

Me said...

You DO rock!

I love your description of yourself, how it's TRUE and you aren't trying to shove yourself into one "box" and are all over the place (as most of us are).

Agree with you on the marriage thing. Absolutely. Shawn and I haven't been through a lot, but what we have been through has strengthened us and brought us closer. I'm so blessed to be married to someone that, even when I'm mad at him, it's him I want to go to for comfort.

We don't fight in front of our children, but believe it can be healthy to see us argue. Little disagreements and then seeing us come back together in a compromise...well, that's reality. Shawn's grandparents never so much as disagreed with each other in front of their kiddos so when they grew up, when things weren't instantly perfect, they never knew that was the norm. They never knew it was okay to disagree with their spouse without it being a serious problem...But real fights? Never. That's not for them.

Anyway, I'm gonna go now, since I've written a novel. You're awesome!

K8E said...

You go girl! Everyone has the right to be who they are.

I, too, agree with you about marriage. I think this world would be a much better place if people would take the word 'vow' more seriously.